Startups Anonymous Est. 2013 · Read-only archive
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Do you feel like you’re one step away from going crazy due to stress?

Don’t get me wrong.  I don’t think that I’m going to be in a straitjacket anytime soon.  However, I think if it wasn’t for the fact that I’m a young guy in his twenties in good shape, I would have probably had several heart attacks by now.

This constant roller coaster of emotions and the non-stop work required to succeed are really taking a toll. I can’t stop now though since I’m so close to succeeding and if I do stop, I don’t think I’ll have the willpower to start again.

It’s sort of like running on a treadmill; if you stop halfway to your goal, you’ll find it much harder to start up again, vs. if you had just kept running the whole time.

10 answers from the community

AAnonymous· Jul 21, 2014

I'm in my 40's and yes I feel like I'm actually slightly crazy due to the roller coaster. Its a pity. I live in a nice area and lots of things to do but I can't make myself do any of it because I keep feeling like I need to work on my startup... and its been many years. I really need to slow down :)

AAnonymous· Jul 21, 2014

I'm the OP. Same here. I'm missing out on so much of life by pursuing my startup and yet I feel like I can't give up on my dreams and just be an ordinary person. I will regret it for the rest of my life if I give up now, and hopefully if I succeed I will then be able to have much more free time and money to actually enjoy life.

AAnonymous· Jul 28, 2014

"if I succeed I will then be able to have much more free time and money to actually enjoy life." Sounds like postponing happiness. Have you read The 4hr WW by Tim Ferriss?

AAnonymous· Aug 1, 2014

No I haven't, but any founder who only spends 4 hours every week on his startup is not a good founder.

AAnonymous· Jul 22, 2014

I'm 100% insane and days away from smoking crack and hiring trannies. I think reading a constant stream of other peoples success also helps drive me nuts.

Fuck this, I'm going to burning man , let the world churn ( and my adoption rate and traction go up , whilst I am away!)

AAnonymous· Jul 22, 2014

It's definitely normal to feel that way. I've def had my share of ups, downs and moments where I felt like crying in the shower. What's helped me get through the toughest times has been other startup founders who are at about the same stage. We have a small group and we meet up periodically after work to talk about our issues. All convos stay in the group. Like AA, but for founders. Try it.

AAnonymous· Jul 23, 2014

Succeeding ? Do we ever succeed ? Or always want more ?

AAnonymous· Jul 23, 2014

What about passion? You're not passionate about your startup ?

AAnonymous· Jul 23, 2014

I am passionate about it, which is why I experience the roller coaster effect. One moment I'm feeling ontop of the world and full of passion, the next moment something goes wrong or I fail in some way and I feel like crap.

People who are employees just get to work and go home and collect their paycheck. Us founders on the other hand are the ones constantly worrying about the survival of the business.

It's hard to stay upbeat all the time when there are so many issues to deal with: building and maintaining the product, responding to customer complaints or issues, handling taxes and legal issues, defending against competitors, marketing the startup, etc.

AAnonymous· Aug 13, 2014

I go through stages of either being unable to sleep, or unable to wake up before 12pm. I drink anything from 1-3 bottles of neat spirit a week. And I'm at breaking point with my girlfriend of 5 years.

And from the conversations I have with other founders, this is a fairly common/normal situation :-)

For the record, we have funding and revenue. But every night when I lay in bed and close my eyes, the only thing I can do is recalculate our runway.

There's only 1 thing I've found helps:

Keep exercising at a gym. NEVER skip the gym, no matter how important other work may seem. It's a great hack to keep your body and mind in shape, and spending 30 minutes staring at a hot girls ass (or the guns of a dude if thats your thing) are a great way to clear your mind for a while.

You can get away with not hanging out with friends and family as long as you're hitting a gym 3-5 x a week.

You'll look great, have endorphins flowing, your skin will look healthier (something women notice on people more than guys), you'll have more energy and sleep will be better.