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Confused, worried, anxious … need advice.

So I started my own startup about 2.5 years ago and about 6 months ago, I got an offer to get bought out (not a very huge sum of money) or take another investment (not a huge one and it needs me to give up >70% of the company). I was excited to try it at first, but where I live, family is a huge thing (Asian thing). My parents (even though they won’t admit it) basically guilt-trip me into, stop “playing around” with my startup and help with the family business (coincidentally, it’s in the IT industry as well). So I figured…might as well. So I did not sell it, nor did I receive an investment. But the official story is that it’s sold at a modest sum.

So here I am helping in my family business – we’re a medium size organization but having financial and management issues. I’m basically in charge of everything from sales to marketing to development to support. I don’t mind. I love the grind work (it’s why I started my own company in the first place last time). The prospect for this product is really good and we’re growing. But not fast enough.

Many friends or friends of a friends say how well their business is doing. And I always think….damn….do I suck? Why can’t mine be as good as theirs? I know they might be boasting it a bit, but a friend just boasted he hit hundred million revenue mark (albeit, different business industry).

So I need to grow my business. Prospects are great. But we haven’t closed anything for the past 3 months. Just to give you context, we’re in the IT solution service business. So I realize the sales cycle isn’t short. Anyway … any sage words of wisdom or advice?

4 answers from the community

AAnonymous· Jan 29, 2015

You've got something special either way, so congratulations. You may feel inadequate compared to your peers, but you're further than I am and a lot of others. It's great to have something to work towards, though, and good for you.

You'll miss the experience if you were to exit. If you don't exit, you'll miss the money and the other experiences that you can try out. What does your "team" think about exiting (not sure whether you're a team of one)? Would they be interested in moving onto another initiative together?

You said that you love the grind. Grind on.

AAnonymous· Jan 30, 2015

Thanks for your kind words.

With regards to my team, I guess I didn't really consider their thoughts (not the same customs as it is in US) but also because our team was not that huge (about 5 people). But luckily I was able to bring them into the family business and 3 is still with me.

But you're right, sometimes I wonder if I did the right thing to pass on the money. Let's be honest, it's not a bad thing to sell our startups, right?

AAnonymous· Jan 29, 2015

Could you combine your start-up with your family business? Can you family biz founders provide advice. Or does your own business compete with your family one?

AAnonymous· Jan 30, 2015

So the family business belongs to my dad as he's the first generation. The business isn't related to any of his cousins. And honestly, with all the somewhat negative things he (my dad) has said about me and how he keeps on pushing to join in, I'm not sure I wanted to bring my startup into the family business and be the lame goat.

I wanted to do it actually to prove him that I can do it. Which...I kinda did. But guess, not successful enough. My ego.