When I’m at my lowest point, I still manage to inspire others … this sucks. People rarely help because they think everything is ok just because I’m a good person. Maybe I should just walk around telling people F”@& you, pay me.
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I hear you! But part of what we do as "entrepreneurs" is stay positive, no matter what. Regardless of how we're feeling inside. Regardless of the voices in our heads telling us we're crap and our ideas will never fly, we keep going anyway. So when we inspire people, that inspires us. Literally, without us, other people wouldn't decide to follow their dreams. That's a pretty powerful inspiration to have :-) We all feel like craps at times. Just keep going. Fake it til you make it. Smaile to you feel it. Good luck.
You are a giver.
Give.
You will receive. Albeit later.
People rarely help because they're takers, not givers
Amen. The population-wide ratio is about 90% takers, 5% neutral, 5% givers. Those who give a little bit in order to get attention or get return favors are included in the 90%.
There is a very well researched book about this by Adam Grant. Most people are not takers they are matchers. It might surprise you that the givers actually experienced more success than the takers over time.
Think of it as planting seeds...not every one will bear fruit, but most will. In one way or another.
It's good to inspire no doubt, but, you should have a trusted few that you can entrust your burdens and stresses. Otherwise, you'll be in a sucky position all the time and get resentful.
Everyone wants to feel secure, safe, happy, and hopeful. But, as Gerry Spence said: "When you are on the precipice of insecurity, that's when you are most secure."
You said "people rarely help because they think everything is ok. " This means you are not telling them the true story. You need to be authentic. I ran a company for 5 yrs, shut it after major losses. now started a new one, and I always have atleast 2 people I can share the journey with.. You cannot expect someone to help you if they don't know you need help. So have a few go to friends/ or therapist or whatever. But be honest and vent it out. Reconsider your business if you feel it isn't working out, or take a part time gig.
Are you not charging them because they are friends? Set your boundaries.
Value is only valued when value is of value. This is a quote from the former CEO of Coca Cola. I keep this in mind whenever I connect with someone who is interested in hiring me. That way I'm able to ask better questions.