i get yelled at often by n00bros for “being here” + “spoiling their vibe”. i’ve been renting this co-working space longer than they have, have successfully closed funding & 100k+ users. i’m also female founder. #notallmen but wow

it's extra annoying because he won't fail. he hasn't shipped a product or beta in all the time he's here (we're talking more than 6 months) because it's entirely funded by dad's money

People deal with their own shit in their own strange ways. A tremendous amount of people pull others down to make them fell better about their miserable selves.

DON'T let it get under you skin, it has nothing to do with you. If it was Gates or Jobs there, they would be likely saying the same shit.

BE the adult and win at your own game, not theirs, because as you've already identified, their game sucks and they suck at it.

i ignore it and my team is a great mix of people (all genders welcome)

unfortunately it still gets on my nerves when i run into them in corridors and such. plus when we interview new candidates some of them <em>will</em> assume i'm the secretary. it's these micro-incidents that just build up over time

It happens with women all the time. I actually enjoy it when people underestimate who I am, how old I am and what I offer. It makes me laugh... I sometimes even play the game of listening, letting them dig themselves deeper, then I hit them with my company pitch and business accomplishments along with words like decade to further drive home that I'm not some 20 year old startup groupie.... Let them keep underestimating you, keep focussed on delivering results and building your customers and revenue. Because at the end of the day, you taking care of your team and self is your priority. Now as far as your office mate goes - you have two choices. Examine further to see if it's you misunderstanding him as it may just be his way of joking/flirting with you because you're so wound up. Or 2, let him know that it hurts your feelings when he says that stuff. The micro aggressions hurt. I left a meeting with a multi billion dollar corporation and was in an uber on the way back to the office and the uber driver said to me before I got out, "I'm sure you got the job." I felt offended at first, - "job!" I thought to myself but landing a client is a job. I got offended because other people who aren't strong enough to be entreprenuers say stuff all the time like, "go get a job" or "you're too pretty to struggle, go get a job." But I realized that people who quoted things like that to me are weak or state things like that because they are programmed to say those things. They don't think for themselves. Yes, it's hard and it's hurtful, but you know better. You are crushing it... It doesn't matter what others are doing. I've seen so many startups fail and die because they look for "mirrored images" of success (white males who have bromances with each other and are too "smart" for their own damn good) and I've seen some succeed. Still, none of that has anything to do with my success or failure, it has everything to do with that investors failure who chooses Napoleon Dynamite and Matt Bomer every time. Instead of being upset at how hard you've had to work, be glad that you have an investor that believes in you and what you do and he didn't even have to birth you.

Also, join female founder support groups online like Systers, tons on FB (Women Who Tech, Global Tech Women, etc) and look for local groups in your area that meet offline regularly.

thanks for the advice! I'll definitely look into female founder support groups. i haven't really considered joining one since we're constantly shipping product updates (how do people find time for anything?) and i feel awkward since my problems are small compared to the larger problems of sexual harassment faced by other women by investors and such.

i'm generally assertive. he was just downright rude and i was shocked by it. even his team looked embarrassed for him. it's particularly awkward since this dudebro sits in a separate office from his team and occasionally stomps over to the open-area to yell at them. he could just have an aggression problem.